When I am angry, depressed, or out-of-sorts, I find that it is beneficial to spend time in reflection on the dark goddesses. I look at them as a whole - their strengths and their weaknesses - and decide if there are some of their characteristics that I indeed should embrace. On of my favorites is Lillith.
Lillith was the original mate of Adam. Lillith, however, refused to be subservient. She saw herself as an equal - made from the same earth as Adam, to stand beside Adam, with equal rights and powers. She did not take fondly to the idea that she was to be submissive in any area of life - including sex. She was cast from the Garden of Eden, some say to become a demon, and was replaced by the subservient Eve, made from the rib of Adam.
Some do say that Lillith is a demon; some that she was the first feminist; some that she was the first lesbian. Speculation is simply that. However, what I see in Lillith is strength and determination. She knew that she could stand on her own two feet, use her own well-developed mind, trust her own body, and demand her own place in the world. Lillith was no doormat!
Some describe Lillith with wild hair, red eyes, and gnashing teeth. The Lillith I envision stands tall and proud, back straight, head held high. Her dark hair flows down her back and her step is firm and self-assured. She knows her place and she will not allow any to take it from her.
This is the Lillith that even today's woman needs as a role model - a woman that can claim her place in this world without sacrificing self!